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The problem truly lies in the fact that both these women seemed to pin their own value and self worth to how men viewed them, weather it as sexual object or not. Two extremes of the same identity crisis faced by 21st Century women; liberated by the sexual revolution and brow beaten by commercial advertising and television which is created largely by men. Even in their rebellion, both women fall victim to the same lie that in order to be happy they must find love in the arms of a man. Although Hephzibah didn’t have sex, she admitted on the Colbert Report that she did everything but. Meaning she still used sex in way to maintain power in the relationships she did have during that year of abstinence. The same as the other one used sex as way to maintain power in hers. The two women both claim their experiences were empowering and liberating. They each believe they were taking control of their lives. Which is to say they felt that before they had no control and had sex simply as way of giving in to their respective partners, and not as a way of achieving pleasure for themselves? It seems dishonest to me. Thought they went at it in two separate ways they both used sex and non-sex as a way to get what they wanted-which was affection. Continue reading →